Too intelligent not conducive to mental health

I am a divorced woman, dissatisfied with the seven-year-old daughter lives with me. In the days after breaking up, I always cry at sad, and her very young age, it is particularly sensible, in my depression always comfort in every possible way, not only learning the mother not to worry about, even cooking, laundry, etc. Everyone is trying to do ... ... After the divorce my daughter the biggest comfort. May be others, too sensible not conducive to physical and mental health of children. I would like to ask, which is the scientific basis for it? Yunnan Wang X X

Wang reader:

Too intelligent not conducive to mental health indeed. Such as your daughter psychological premature "mature" children, in psychology known as "adult children of." After your divorce, emotionally vulnerable, disorderly life, not only to take care of a bad daughter, and even do not bother to do their own cooking.涉世daughter do not, but in such circumstances, aware of the fragility of the spirit out of you, she did not want to let you suffer more pain, did not dare to extend their own troubles, the pressure and demand to talk to you, in turn, caring and considerate in every possible way you not only the home and learning to bear the pressure, it is also necessary to take care of the emotional, to appease you. And all but her own sense of fear and psychological needs of deep heart, did not dare to tell you, very hard to fit in the appearance of "sensible", "understanding", "clever."
"Adult children of" the concept of psychology long ago was that, since the defect in the role of parents, such as divorce or for some special reasons (illness, alcoholism, etc.), with the result that one or both parents "exist in name only" between parents or long-term, sustained a serious conflict, when their children may be forced to play the original should be the father or the mother's role, resulting in significant "role perversion" phenomenon, resulting in parent-child boundaries become blurred between unclear. These parents often overestimate their children, intentionally or unintentionally, the ability to see the children very clever, very intelligent, they think they can bear great. Of these adult children were shown early psychological, in fact, is a malformation of precocious children when they grow up prone to psychological problems. Children, young parents are in incomplete when the family lost in the spirit of the important objects to rely on. Psychological studies indicate that adult children of adults have more alcohol and drug abuse, suffer from a higher proportion of depression, and even their children are also vulnerable adult of the same. In social life, some people used to sacrifice their own needs to take care of the needs of others, used to suppress their emotions, and to take care of other people's emotions. In intimate relationships such as friends and family, they will not dare to tell each other their own needs often can not afford to think that other people understand, care for and help themselves. They have been through the care of other people to support its own value, and finally feel infinite emptiness and loss. Parents to the healthy development of children to provide physical and psychological atmosphere and space, in any case should be borne in mind that children are children, not to bear their own children with emotional and mental stress, resulting in the role of parent-child relationship disorder, thereby directing the child's tragic life.